If I Were A Teen Again!
We always hear some adults say, “If only I knew then what I now know, I’d do things differently.” I am no different. I wish I had the opportunity to relive certain aspects of my teen years. But I cannot change the past; however, I can at the minimum help you to learn from my mistakes and thereby make your present and future possibly better. Honestly, I have not done too badly. I was a comparatively constructive teenager and my character was always intact. But as you may be aware, there is always room for improvement. So these are areas on which I would refocus if I had another chance:
Look at more meaningful television: Television is not totally bad, but excessive TV-watching is. I remember the days of “Three’s Company,” “Dallas,” “One day at a Time,” and many others. These were ‘cool’ shows but they also distracted me from my priorities, including my studies. Additionally, I was a movie-bug and viewed too many Hindi films, most of which were quite lengthy, melodramatic, and simply a waste of precious time. So, if I could do it all over again, I’d look at more educational shows (like what is offered on the National Geographic and History channels) and enjoy some ‘decent’ comedies but I would ensure my studies and other important areas were not compromised in the time of action. Television, like drugs, is addictive, so now is the time to kick that habit. Take a hint from Groucho Marx (1890-1977): “I find television very educational. Every time somebody turns on the set, I go into the other room and read a book.”
Never disrespect loved ones: The major regret I have in life is when I talked back to or hurt my loved ones. I suppose sometimes I lost control, as teenage years bring on many challenges. Also, our psyche is affected due to hormonal changes in our bodies which affect us mentally and physically. Nevertheless, today I wish that I had never raised my voice at or offended the people in my life who average everything to me. How I regret the times I was rude to my parents. They deserve much better than that. already if you think you are being treated unfairly, it rarely makes sense to lose your cool. When we treat others shabbily we show ourselves in a negative light. Emotional Quotient (EQ) is sometimes a more basic issue than Intelligence Quotient (IQ). So, live lovingly and have minimal regrets.
Make my education my number one priority: I did not pursue progressive Levels because I was too tired of school. Just imagine; I felt I had had enough of studying after Ordinary Levels. I began working at age seventeen and then commenced tertiary education about six years later. Although I ultimately did pretty well, I should not have postponed it. This delay cost me many lost opportunities. At the workplace I found persons younger than me holding higher locaiongs on the corporate ladder and in other places. This decreased my morale, since I knew I had great possible. consequently education must be your number one priority during your teen years. There is enough time thereafter to discover at any rate else you wish to analyze.
Exercise more often: When we are young we assume we have unlimited time. Then suddenly one day we turn forty and we surprise where the last twenty years went! Where did this additional fat come from? Why do I seldom feel vibrant? Health is a very important aspect of one’s life and one of its best recipes is exercise. How I wish I had a six-pack stomach today. It’s a fact: a flat stomach is rather cool! Maybe I should have eaten more healthily and exercised more often so that I could have been a twin of Brad Pitt. Well, it’s never too late or too early to start a healthy lifestyle. Do not just drag your feet, sprint! Begin to watch your diet from today and ensure there is time for working-out in your daily calendar.
Learn a sport: I did not create balance in my life; there was a without of additional-curricular activities. It is apparent that being involved in sports has many advantages: improved health, coordination, stress-relief, and quite importantly – being part of a team builds camaraderie and social skills (which is so important when you go into the workplace). As a child I suffered from eczema and this more or less was a handicap. Nonetheless, I could have been creative. Sport is an excellent pursuit and everyone should indulge. May I also add that some of the highest paid professionals in the world today are athletes. So, if you are looking for me these days, I’m in training with Brian Lara (cricket) and Dwight Yorke (football)!
Worry less about other peoples’ opinions: In my time, the teens were quite sensitive to what other people thought of us. We wanted to belong and consequently craved acceptance from others. I do not think this has changed much today. But now that I am older I can state categorically that worrying about other people’s opinions is NEVER worth the energy and effort. Only the opinions of the people who really care for you should count for something (parents, teachers, and trusted friends). Regarding others, especially if they are negative, just ignore them! They will only keep you back from joy and peace. Let no one determine your value; that’s YOUR privilege only.
Problems are not the end of the world: As a child, my parents or other elders looked after my every need. But as I progressed into teen-hood I had to start taking responsibility for certain things. It meant that if I had a problem I had to try and resolve it (though I nevertheless had access to my parents). What I needed to realise then was that every problem had a good assistance behind it and it never meant the end of the world. Of course, there were times when I gave up too easily and wished my world would end. Now, if I could do it all over, I would put problems in their right perspective and not take things so personally. I would remove the unnecessary self-doubt and have the courage and conviction that I can and will conquer. Life would have been so much more adventurous had I been more embracing of challenges, knowing they served a purpose.
Stop worrying: I wasted so much time worrying. And most of that worrying was of no substance and no assistance to me. We really beat our heads against the wall for no reason. Worry never solved a problem in my teen years and neither does it serve me good in my adult years. If a problem presents itself we just need to analyse it and take positive action. There is always a solution, but worry crowds our minds so intensely that we sometimes never see the answer. STOP WORRYING! Again I say, STOP WORRYING! And have no fear because FEAR stands for “False Evidence Appearing Real.”
These are just a few of the areas in which I could have done better. Each adult has their own lessons to proportion. So use some quality time with as many adults as you can, and learn from them. Why repeat the mistakes of those who have gone before us? Be smart!